When was the last time you spent a few hours alone with your partner? Unfortunately, most parents don’t prioritize their relationship and as a result, their relationship suffers. What these couples fail to realize is that the stronger their relationship is, the stronger their family’s bond will be. If you’re struggling to find time to find the time to reconnect with your partner, read on to discover 8 simple tips which will help you make your relationship a priority.
1. Plan date nights in advance
While it’s important to take advantage of random spare moments and use those to spend time together, it’s also important to schedule and commit to regular dates. If you wait till you have more free time, it might be months until you finally get to spend a kid free night with your partner.
If you have a tendency to cancel your date nights, consider purchasing tickets to a show, concert or movie a few weeks in advance, so that you’ll be less likely to back out of your date.
2. Don’t be afraid to ask for help
If your family and friends have offered to babysit your children, take them up on their offer. Despite what you may think they’re not making such an offer just to be polite, they genuinely want to help you and may enjoy your children’s company. If your friends or family have children of their own, consider babysitting for their children in exchange, so that you both get to spend quality time with your partners.
If you’re lucky enough to live close to your parents or your partner’s parents, you may also want to consider asking them if they could babysit your children on a regular basis, perhaps every Sunday afternoon or after school every other week, as grandparents cherish the time spent with their grandchildren.
Also consider hiring a babysitter to take care of your children for those times that your friends and family members are unable to babysit. If you’re wary of trusting a stranger to take care of your children simply ask your friends for the names of babysitters which they recommend.
3. Lock your bedroom door
You don’t need to go out to a restaurant or a movie to spend time together. It’s possible to have one on one time together in the privacy of your bedroom, simply by monitoring your children’s habits and retreating to your bedroom when you know their favorite television show is on or when they’re playing outside in your back yard. If you have a bathroom in your bedroom, consider running a bubble bath and having a glass of your favorite champagne together.
In the interests of safety, you don’t want to ignore your children or pretend you’re not in your bedroom, if they come looking for you. Instead simply lock your door and have a policy where if your door is shut, that your children are to knock in case of an emergency.
4. Find non-sexual ways to show each other affection
As busy parents by the time date night arrives you may find that one or both of you are exhausted and not in the mood for intercourse and that’s perfectly okay! There are plenty of ways to shower each other with affection. As an example, if you’re too tired to get dressed up and go out for a fancy dinner, why not order in, put on some romantic music and decorate your dining table with a few candles or cuddle up in-front of the fireplace and spend the night talking.
Also make a habit out of showing each other you care on a daily basis as affection shouldn’t be saved exclusively for night’s dates. As an example, try leaving your partner love notes in their pockets or sending them an email while they’re at work telling them how much you miss them and how much you’re looking forward to seeing them after work.
5. Take joy in the simple things
You don’t have to jet half way across the world to a private island to spend quality time with your partner. Sometimes the most romantic memories, which you’ll treasure for the rest of your life, are created in spare moments. So next time your favorite song plays on the radio, stop whatever you’re doing and dance in each other’s arms around the living room. Or next time it rains, instead of running towards shelter, grab your partner and enjoy a romantic kiss in the rain. There are endless opportunities to turn everyday events into romantic memories.
6. Never go to bed angry
Believe it or not, there is a lot of truth to this old piece of advice. Life is far too short to let minor disagreements, cause long term friction. So remember to pick your battles and to calmly discuss any disagreements which may arise with your partner. Whatever you do, never result to childish insults or name calling. If an argument gets heated, stop talking and agree to spend a few hours separately to calm down before meeting again to discuss the issue at hand.
7. Make an effort to feel sexy
As a parent you may spend the majority of your spare time running around after your kids. However, it’s important to take the time to figure out the things which you can do, to get yourself in the mood. As an example, you may want to splurge on a new outfit which you feel sexy in or put on some lingerie underneath your regular clothes. Feeling sexy isn’t just for your partners benefit. You’re bound to have a lot more fun with your partner if you feel confident and attractive as opposed to feeling unattractive. If you are feeling unattractive the last thing you’ll want to do is get intimate with your partner.
8. Don’t take each other for granted
Treat each other with kindness, make sure to compliment each other on a daily basis and appreciate the little things you do for each other. Sometimes all it takes is a simple heartfelt thank-you, when your partner helps you cook dinner or a sincere compliment to make your partners day. Remember, it’s the little things you do that will strengthen your bond and will lead to more physical forms of intimacy. After all, if your partner nagged you every day and never made you feel appreciated, would you be in the mood to get intimate with them?
Remember, just like any other relationship, your relationship with your partner requires time, energy and effort to sustain. So make sure to make time for each other every week in order to keep the romance in your relationship alive!